My Husband Won't Stick Up for Me
And now that I'm trying to set boundaries with people so that they treat me civilly, I can see just how much my previous actions have damaged my present situation.The deal: My stepson is quite rude to...
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fwiw, this is bullshit: "I know I'm doing something to bring it on myself." They're responsible for their own behavior. You can make yourself a harder target, or you can just refuse to be around them...
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I just meant that since I find myself always being a target, with them and with other people, and it's a recurring thing in my life, I think I'm doing something that gives off a "vibe" that I'm an...
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FWIW, my husband doesn't stick up for me with his family. His mother is okay, but his father and step-mother have badmouthed me to him and the rest of the world for the twelve years that we've been...
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Good points. I'll answer you after I eat my sushi. Sushi makes everything better.
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luckylibrarian wrote:FWIW, my husband doesn't stick up for me with his family. His mother is okay, but his father and step-mother have badmouthed me to him and the rest of the world for the twelve...
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Is he getting married to his fiancee soon? I had to get all that sort of information (parents' birthplaces, maiden names, etc.) to apply for a marriage license. (I don't know how to deal with rude...
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Next July, I think. Lots of time. Besides, he did say it was for a security check.
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I completely sympathize with you on being an easy target. I noticed in college that I was usually the favorite target of mean "jokes" made by friends. It took me years to realize that even though they...
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Thanks, Spartan89. I had some of the same situations with former friends as you mentioned, although I don't think mine was that bad (or I've blocked it out already, lol). I think you're right that a...
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Ah, we must have the same friends! I know exactly what you mean about the exchanged looks- just subtle enough to make you look crazy and paranoid if you mention it! Those books do sound good, I'll...
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Lainey wrote: I may or may not have called him and his cousin (the aforementioned nephew) assholes. I know that was wrong of me, but in my defense, they were being assholes. Why was it wrong to call...
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I've told my sons before that they're acting like assholes. Sometimes they do - it's the truth.
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I dunno, I mentioned that on the weight watchers forums, and was told that it was immature and as the adult, I should know better. Stepson may have been around 17 at the time; not sure exactly. But...
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Set your boundaries and stick with them. Don't worry about being popular, because you'll never win that way. Take it from the voice of experience. You are a person unto yourself and you deserve to be...
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But...but...people must like me or I'll DIE!!!!!eleventy11!!!Okay, I'm just kidding, sort of, although that's what it feels like sometimes. That's why I'm in therapy. Well, that's one of many reasons,...
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Yikes, I guess I do have a rep for jumping down people's throats. Sorry 'bout that, I've become rather blunt and direct in my advancing years. Believe it or not, I am a serious people-pleaser in...
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Deelaem,Since we do live in a patriarchy (whether we like it or not), I guess we can choose to reject it - what, and live alone? or try to put up with it? I don't reject feminism at all - I have...
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LadyBBR - you make a very good point, it really is impossible to live the life of a true feminist (in a perfect world, humanist), in a patriarchal society. But that doesn't mean that you can't have...
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Hmm...I think I can kind of see your point. I was confused and had to think about it for awhile, though. I actually think some of my problems with my husband's family come from not living up to their...
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Lainey wrote:What do you mean by your refusal to play the typical woman's role? I don't think I play a typical woman's role...although maybe in some ways I do. But in some ways I don't. My friends...
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